So which is better, being lovable or being strong? Most leaders today tend to emphasize their strength, competence, and credentials in the workplace, but that is exactly the wrong approach. Leaders who project strength before establishing trust run the risk of eliciting fear, and along with it a host of dysfunctional behaviors. Fear can undermine cognitive potential, creativity, and problem solving, and cause employees to get stuck and even disengage. It’s a “hot” emotion, with long-lasting effects. It burns into our memory in a way that cooler emotions don’t. Research by Jack Zenger and Joseph Folkman drives this point home: In a study of 51,836 leaders, only 27 of them were rated in the bottom quartile in terms of likability and in the top quartile in terms of overall leadership effectiveness—in other words, the chances that a manager who is strongly disliked will be considered a good leader are only about one in 2,000.

A growing body of research suggests that the way to influence—and to lead—is to begin with warmth. Warmth is the conduit of influence: It facilitates trust and the communication and absorption of ideas. Even a few small nonverbal signals—a nod, a smile, an open gesture—can show people that you’re pleased to be in their company and attentive to their concerns. Prioritizing warmth helps you connect immediately with those around you, demonstrating that you hear them, understand them, and can be trusted by them.


Loggers and the giant Mark Twain redwood cut down in California, 1892.

This photo and others from the National Geographic archives are being auctioned by Christie’s in an exclusive, online-only sale from July 19-29, see here for detailsPhotograph by N.E. Beckwith

(Reblogged from natgeofound)

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Friday, March 20, 2009

We got up early for a 7:45 train out of Paris to London. Upon arrival, we made our way to our hotel near King’s Cross, and then headed to central London. Our first stop was a pub near St. Paul’s Cathedral for fish and chips. After lunch, we poked our heads into the cathedral.

We then bought a 24-hour pass on a tour bus that covered all the main sites in London and rode it for several hours.

In the late afternoon we met up with our friends Ian and Bekah who are currently living in London. We hung out in Costa coffeeshop, then headed to the Angel neighborhood where we ate at an Indian restaurant.

Thursday, March 19, 2009

After watching the sunset from Pont Neuf, we walked to St. Michel and had dinner at a sidewalk cafe. We both had chevre salads and duck, and as always, the people watching opportunities were terrific!

After dinner, we took a night cruise on the Seine that departed from Pont Neuf, on Ile de Cite. The views were awesome as the boat took us past the Tour Eiffel, Notre Dame, and many more spots along the river. We topped off the night with nutella banane crepes! A perfect way to end our romantic time in Paris.

On Thursday afternoon we took the Metro to Le Bon Marche, a famous designer shopping district - but we only window shopped :) We then headed toward St. Michel and stopped along Pont Neuf, one of the oldest bridges in Paris, to take in our last sunset. It was gorgeous and the sky was pink right around the Tour Eiffel! C’etait magnifique! - Jessica